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35 Ways to Help a Help a Grieving Child |
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Skrivet av Anne Backman
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2010-01-11 |
(The Dougy Center The National Center for Grieving Children & Families)
- Listen
- Listen some more
- Be honest. Never lie to a child
- Answer the questions they ask. Even the hard ones.
- Give the child choices whenever possible.
- Encourage consistency and routines
- Talk about and remember the person who died
- Make a child’s world safe for grieving
- Expect and allow all kind of emotions. Shocked, sad, numb, mad, glad
- Forget about the “grief stages”
- Respect differences in grieving styles
- Get out the crayons, pens, pencils, paint and chalk
- Run, jump, play (Or find other ways to release energy and emotions)
- Be model of good grief
- Hug with permission
- Practice patience
- Support children even when they are in a bad mood
- Expect some kids to act younger than their age
- Expect some kids to become little adults
- Encourage kids to eat right and drink lots of water
- Help the child at bedtimes. Sleep may come hard for grieving children.
- Inform the child’s teacher about the death
- Resist being overprotective.
- Don’t force kids to talk
- Take a break
- Remember: “Playing is grieving”
- Seek additional help for the child if needed
- Attend to the physical aspects of grief
- Help children know they are not alone in their grief
- Understand that grief looks different at different ages
- Set limits and rules and enforce them
- Remember special days that impact the child
- Plan family times together
- Be available for children when they need you
- Take care of yourself and do your own grieving
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